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Time Out for Mommy

Confession… I am currently hiding in my room, eating the last piece of my daughters’ birthday cake (they just turned 4 and 6 this week), while my children are watching Milo and Otis (I really have no idea why I enjoyed that movie so much as a kid). I walked to my room, told my kids mommy needs a little time out to regroup and de-stress and that I would be back out in a little bit. My four-year-old’s eyes grew really big at the idea of mommy being put in time out but they are all happy to be watching a movie and are getting along great at the moment which is exactly what I need right now… calm and quiet.

You see, I just finished cleaning out a set of cupboards and throwing away food for the third time in less than a week due to mice. Mice that have been raiding my cupboards, chewing through thick plastic containers to help themselves to my food, and then storing that food amidst the clothing in my dresser, which has also been cleaned out three times in less than a week. While I was cleaning the cupboards, the furnace guy showed up to repair the furnace that decided to quit yesterday on one of the coldest and wettest days we’ve had in a while.

Now, we have heat! So thankful to be warm again! My cupboards are sanitized; and, will hopefully remain so for longer than a few days or weeks. And I just finished washing all the dishes which is always a wonderful feeling. And I need to decompress. Time for me to take a breath, re-group, and re-focus for a minute before feeding the kids lunch, packing their snacks, and then heading out for co-op.

If this had all happened a year ago, probably even six months ago, I would most likely have had a minor meltdown and would have been much less composed than I have been this past week, especially with first discovering the mice less than 48 hours before the girls’ birthday party, completely derailing all my best laid plans and preparations and completely putting this type A personality off schedule. Now, while I’ll admit that there was some freaking out involved, it was only for a moment and I got right on top of going to war with our new house guests without letting all the frustration and stress eat me up inside. My wonderfully patient husband listened quietly while I bemoaned the inconvenience and aggravation and worry I was suddenly thrust into and then I moved on, plugging away at eradicating each invasion and its evidence and making sure my family was warm when we had no heat.

But now, it has been a week. An exhausting week. And I need a moment. I’ve found that if I step away, even for just five minutes (not usually with cake, but, hey, it was there and I needed a little something extra for this time out), and just give myself the opportunity to re-focus, clear my head, and just rest my mind and emotions, it is so much easier to jump back in and get through the rest of the day. I step away and leave my worries and stress behind otherwise it will just keep building and swelling until it bursts in a very unhealthy way. And, so, sometimes mommy needs a time out. This was the first time my kids noticed and the first time I named it but I think it fits and I think I’ll be using the term again.

What about you? Do you ever find yourself in need of a “time out?” How do you cope when you become overwhelmed?

14 thoughts on “Time Out for Mommy

  1. yikes… dealing with pests in addition to the regular roller coaster of parenting! i like the thought of a parents time out. with dessert. i love food so that would be my jam. hopefully you get a few more of those in the upcoming weeks! 🙂

  2. Mice are awful! We live in a historic home and they are always finding new ways to sneak in and evade the cat. I tried sticky traps but i would always cry when I found them alive. Plus, a sticky trap got stuck to the underside of the cat, glueing it’s tail to it’s stomach. That was a real fun mess to clean up. lol

    1. Oh, no! Poor kitty 🙁 I’m so sorry you have to deal with mice so often! They are definitely nuisance. We have found that the old fashioned traps work the best. We actually set out three different types of traps for this fiasco since I wanted them gone. Two types were super fancy and the third type was the old wooden ones with the spring and the only traps that caught any mice at all were the old fashioned ones. Which also happened to be the cheapest. Go figure

  3. Glad you could sneak in a me time and for the kids understanding. Everyone deserves to recharge once in a while. My me time is every night when the kids have been put to bed.

    1. Hi, Bola! I completely agree. It’s so important for everyone to find opportunities to refresh. After the kids go to bed is a great down time. Usually I can use that time to decompress a little bit. Right now, my two year old is fighting bed time so by the time I actually get him to stay in bed for the night, I am ready to pass out. I am looking forward to having some time to myself in the evenings again. Hopefully soon 🙂 Thanks so much for commenting!

  4. I am always in need of a time out, but rarely get one. We tell my daughter I need a nap, and I do it after her nap, so she won’t want to take a nap with me. I have a two year old, and don’t even get to go pee by myself! Where is the cake?? I will gladly eat the whole thing, and dream it’s a nice big glass of sweet mixed alcohol.

    1. Hi, Michelle! What a great idea for getting a few moments for yourself. I am glad you found something that works for you. My kids would still follow me even if I told them I was taking a nap, unfortunately, so time-outs it is 🙂 They seem to think I never need to rest. I hope you get the chance to take a little break more often. Totally understand the whole lack of privacy in the bathroom. My kids are 6, 4, and 2. I rarely even get the chance to keep the door closed, let alone be in there by myself, lol!

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